Sunday, December 13, 2009

Dear M

Dear hearts,

Miss Mich has been reflecting on a conversation with her favourite Aide de Camp, Ms LA.

It appears one her closest confidants, we shall call her M, is struggling with a few curly issues of her own.

Aren’t we all Dear heart. Aren’t we all. Having the hard won experience she has, Miss Mich feels she is in a position to advise M of several key points she needs to keep in mind. These apply to us all Dear hearts, so stay with me...

In the great Zen Buddhist tradition, nothing lasts forever. Nothing is more true. Think of everything you have ever done, good or bad. Eventually it comes to an end. It is over. A bummer when it comes to great sex or a good book. Relief when it comes to the gynecologist or the magistrates court.

Leading on from that is Change. Totally Capital letter worthy. The net result of things coming to an end is Change. Despite what you may think at the time, change is the force that helps us to grow. Makes us look beyond ourselves. It can be brutal and give us no choice but to be adaptable and creative. It hurts, but let me tell you M, at the end of the day, you will look back and realise it was the Universe pointing you in the right direction.

Guilt. I don't want to hear about it. And yet, we all suffer from it. Guilt is the demon of religion, the most manipulative of the emotions. And used for evil by most Popes, Dictators and definitely Miss Mich's mother. But that is another story. For you Dear M, I urge you to stay away from that nasty piece of goods that is guilt. You are on a hiding to nowhere and guilt will not thank you for accommodating it's sorry arse. In the wise words of a bumper sticker I first saw in the 80's...Shit happens. And there is nothing you can do about it.Whether you caused it or it came to you, the best thing you can do is just get on with it and do the best you can without beating yourself up.

Which segue ways beautifully to love. Love thyself. Literally, if you have an appliance, and metaphorically if you still have a heart. It goes without saying that if you love and value yourself, then others will follow. If the opposite is how you treat yourself, then you can only expect the same in kind. Miss Mich's legal eagle made quite the point when he told MM in one of her dark moments, that it is because of who you are that people will either be kind or otherwise. Who you are is a direct reflection of how you see yourself.

Forgiveness. A tricky one I admit. Miss Mich struggles herself with a few choice players in her journey, but tries her best to turn the other cheek. Especially difficult when what she really wants to do is slap the opponents cheek...(MM refers herself to her previous tete e tete on work in progress...) Miss Mich’s anger management issues aside, I advise you M, to work on forgiveness. Forgive yourself first, obvi. Once you have done that you can move on and forgive others. It helps with acceptance and makes for a clear head and clean beginning.

The last little word of wisdom I have is Trust. Trust yourself and your belly. You know how Miss Mich feels about this. I feel it is particularly relevant here dear M. If we close our eyes and just feel, you will know the path to take. I now feel compelled to ask you to snatch the pebble from my hand and call you Grasshopper, or am I channeling David Carradine again?

Kung Fu aside M, I do hope this is helpful to you.

No doubt Ms LA will have something to say, no doubt she will…

Enjoy Monday and a little self confidence.

With love M
Miss Mich

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